Any guy who chooses to have a relationship with a married woman is no catch. There are enough worthwhile single women, who have already worked through their baggage and are ready for a healthy relationship. The fact that he's willing to be involved with someone married, confused and who will ultimately be a crazed basketcase if the whole thing leads to divorce indicates he probably doesn't himself have much to offer in any "real" realtionship. A guy like you is worth MUCH more than that. And there are plenty of women who would realize that...

Now... when are you having your night out with the guys?

By the way, I'm very impressed with how patient and level-headed you handled everything with your wife. It takes a lot of strength not to lose it and say something foolish during emotional situations like this. I also think it's good that she feels comfortable enough to confide in you. That's friendship and it's the first steps towards a better relationship.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.