When my H and I were married 20 years ago, H developed a drinking problem and I filed for D. He hit bottom within a couple of months, came home crying one night, begging for forgiveness. On the way to our house that night, he threw the whiskey bottle out of the window of the truck. He said he would never drink again, and kept his word for 18 years.
H took up drinking again 2 years ago when he started his affair with a 23 year old girl. H has been hitting bottom for several months now (since January). On at least one occasion, I thought he was suicidal.
I can't explain the difference between the two scenarios, except he is now in MLC and has a OW that won't let go. He is the most miserable person on the face of the earth. He has lost everything. Yet he still keeps hanging on to a lifestyle that has destroyed him.
