BTW, I understand it's all his self-preservation, and I don't expect him to give me EVERY detail. But to leave out things that could very well impact our family in a big way...that's nowhere near okay. I want to move forward, with him preserving as much dignity as possible...but how do we move forward if the lying isn't addressed?
Maybe it might help you out a little bit. I have never really had to dal with anything that complicated. So I have to find alternative way to try and help you out here...
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
It seems by reading that artical most people that think their spouse are compulsive liars when in fact they are pathological liars. I will keep looking for things that might help you out.
Sorry I am not anymore helpful on this issue.
My STBXW isn't really a liar she just likes sex offenders....
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Just checking in--I went on a little girls' trip with my mom and sister last weekend, and it's been busy ever since. Things are still going great with H. I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt, though I struggle inside here and there with worries about everything settling back down to the way they were before and the reality that he can easily lie to me again.
I had a little talk with him the other day about the lying, and now I'm not sure if he's pathological or just a selfish man protecting his secrets. I think I'll just drop the topic for now and watch and listen and keep working on my end of things. As always, the truth will make itself known, and I'll know what I need to know.
In the end, we each have our strengths and weaknesses, and I can accept differences. Just can't tolerate more infidelity or lies.
I struggle inside here and there with worries about everything settling back down to the way they were before and the reality that he can easily lie to me again.
I could only imagine what it would have been like to make it to that point so take this with a grain of salt.
You can never go back to the way it was before. A) because you do not really want it that way. B) it would be horrible to see anyone go through this multiple times. You have to look forward to you new M being bigger and better than ever. You have learned to much through your journey to ever go back to the way it was.
I am still very happy for you Aud. And greatful for the strength and inspiration that you have gave people around here myself included.
You deeserve nothing less than the best.
Later, Ben
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Sorry I have to think of it as funny it helps control my anger...