naw I didn't think it was too negative. What WOULD be too negative in this sitch? I should be sitting down making lists of positive things just to focus myself. Woulda, shoulda, coulda. I am tired and frustrated and I MISS MY CONFIDANT!!! It always seems so ironic to me that the person who hurts you like this is also the person you would theoretically turn to in times of crisis. GREAT!!!

I have a good friend who is a VERY similar situation and, while I am glad to be of help to her, it brings me back to my sitch and sadness. Mostly I think I want more for DD. I keep thinking about parenting and R's "ya gotta dance with the one what brung ya". But some people fill their dance card with other things/folks. All these messes seem so solveable but...with 2 people working and what most of us ain't got is 2 people working. I could use a good success story right about now!!!

They are UN-delivering our new fridge today! an omen?

I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it.
Stubby