BTW, your H seriously needs to grow up and gain some emotionally maturity. It is probably not possible for him to do that in the context of your M. For whatever he needs to do, he needs lots of space and lots of time. So, again, quit worrying about fixing the M. Let it go for now. You don't need to move ahead with a D. You certainly don't need to get involved with anyone. But, putting energy into hanging onto or restoring your M right now will be counterproductive in many ways.
