...and to add to those commnents, notice too that it IS an emotionally charged conversation that you will be embarking upon, and its likely that she will get angry, upset, gaurded, etc....its easier to project the negative feelings she may be having about all of it back onto you.
This is why its critical to have a conversation instead of the confrontation. I doubt afterwards that she'll fall into your arms swooning with relief and admiration, but what it will accomplish is at least allowing you to air your concerns, fears, etc. and hopefully reign in any negative passive-aggressive behavior.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
