I think my days of being nice and supportive to a fault are behind me -- at least right now, and with her. And, yes, that approach has failed miserably. Maybe that is the root of her disinterest in me, and giving me joy to experience occasionally.
Regrettably, I've been on the cold and distant side (not mean), but clearly I'm not focusing on her happiness, or even supporting it to any extent. I suppose it's a bit like pouting, but I've found it very hard to be upbeat about any part of our time together, after being, well, hurt by repeatedly being rejected in so many ways (not just the sex.)
Today is our anniversary. She knows it. I know it. Last year, I don't recall receiving even a card, though I think I got one for her. Just a few days ago she said sometimes she thinks we shouldn't have gotten married because we are so incompatible (except, of course, we have wonderful children -- that we are both delighted to have).
I'm not sure what to do re. our anniversary. I'm sure there is not a card at a store that would feel in anyway appropriate. Saying nothing would be foolish, don't you think? Saying "Happy Anniversary" -- well, that seems stupid at this point. Maybe giving her a copy of DB would be a nice gesture? Or, maybe something related to her specific career interests...
