I'd like to say I understand but I don't. I've never been in your shoes - only your wives shoes. I saw my husband hurt, I wanted to help him, but he had all the emotions you're having now - anger, hurt, disappointment, wondering what the hell........and then you're wondering why she's being nice now.
I really don't know what to say. I don't know if you should confront her or not - DB wise. For me, personally, I think I'd confront her. Tell her you want to be open and honest and give her a chance to admit it. Here's what my H did: For him, I think he knew a lot. I think he and God had a "talk" because some of the stuff he asked me - he either KNEW from God, or was bluffing me - which he DID do a few times.
For me it was hard to be honest with him about it because it hurt him, it's embarrassing, I just want to FORGET it and move forward. That's not fair to him or his grieving process though.
However, one of the things he has said to me is that he wouldn't even be able to talk to me now or even CONSIDER getting back together - if I had not been honest with him. I'll be honest with you too - some of those questions - really almost make me throw up. But I answer them as best as I can.
I don't know if I have helped you - but I am here for you.
~ UA ~
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
