Whore/Madonna Syndrome

[Heywyre]

I totally agree - it is the way he has been since day one and I can't say I disagree with him. He is WAY more private a person that I am and I know, for the most part, he has been open with me that pretty much any other person he has ever been with but that doesn't mean we have an honest relationship either.

I don't intend to back down. This is something that has been brewing for a long time, it is my line in the sand and I won't compromise. I told him last night that I would hope to eventually go back to the way it was and trust everything was fine but if we leave things the way they are now, it will just fester and happen all over again, which will destroy things forever. He tells me what a good person I am and "if we weren't together I would tell people that, I've never said you were anything but a good person" - well, if I am such a "good person" why does he distrust me. He talks about me not trusting him - well I have a bloody good reason not to. But I have never, ever given him any reason to distrust me, but I am being treated like a second class citizen in my own home.

I know he is feeling vulnerable right now, but so am I. It is very hard to work through this not knowing what is on the other side. Up until last night I thought we were doing well, working on things together. He told the C he felt good about this R and that he felt it would be better than before and now this?