I'm thinking my controlling and smothering is what has caused my W to be unattracted to me. At this point all I can do is continue to work on myself, attending counseling etc...
I know that I am becoming a much better person than I was before. Even my friends and coworkers comment on it frequently.
Perhaps my W will also notice the positive changes, and be willing to work on our R. If not, then I am sure that whatever R I find myself in the future, I will be a much better partner.
