I have a similar situation--my husband tells me he loves me and yet he does not want to have sex unless I initiate. Even when I do initiate it is like pulling teeth. I consider myself to be attractive, I take care of myself, wear pretty lingerie, etc. And right now I have been DBing for the past year. Initially when we married the attraction was incredible. My husband is involved with OW currently (claims he is not sleeping with her) and told me I was "selfish" when I found out because he felt he was justified in having another woman due to him not being able to touch me for "unknown reasons" We went to a counselor who said that it definitely was not a physical problem (when I come close to him, he does get an erection), however he is being stubborn about making an effort. His exact words were "it does not feel natural". Our counselor told him to try it anyway, even if it does not feel natural, but he does not seem to want to try. Any suggestions on how to proceed with this delicate situation. I had been nice, DBing, etc, but waiting around didn't seem to make anything happen.
