Michele, Thanks for your response. Yes, I am definitely in the DR realm right now. Sex is the last issue that we are dealing with at this time. I guess I'll worry about the sex issue if/when we get back to that point.
I suppose that the main question that I had for you was "Is it possible to come back after all this?.. "Under these circumstances, Is it possible for us to regain all that we lost?"
As for the DR strategies... Right now we are separated. She says she has to have some time and space to deal with some of her own issues such as "finding herself"... she has never lived on her own, therefore she seems to feel she has to prove something to herself.
She said she really isn't thinking about OR right now. She is just trying to concentrate on school, work, and surviving on her own.
She says that she doesn't know yet whether or not she will want to work on the R once she has dealt with her issues. She said that it is possible that she might, but that it is just as possible that she may not. She told me that she did not expect for me to wait around on her - that I should go ahead and live my life, and that she would let me know if/when she wants to work on OR.
So, right now we are just working on being friends. We have both commented on starting over as friends and seeing where that leads us. Sometimes it is difficult to try and just be her friend. I am just worried that I may be setting myself up for more hearbreak. But, I am trying to approach it with no expectations. I just hope that I am doing the right thing.
