Jwhetnc, You're right, your post was long, but it was long on describing the problem, not how you're handling the problem. I can't really tell from your post what you've been doing lately to make things work. I know in the beginning you were pressuring her, and now I get the sense that you've backed off a lot. But besides that, what are you doing to try to improve things? Clearly, a good sexual relationship will not be the first thing that falls into place even if your marriage ends up working out. So, although this may have started out dealing with "sex-starved marriage issues," you're more into "divorce remedy"issues. So, it's one step at a time. Michele
