Do not feel guilty about taking control of YOUR life. You are not controlling B as his feelings about things are his feelings, not yours.
Lisa needs to take control of Lisa and her children. You need to raise them with morals and values and love. You need to be the model of strong, loving mom. Your sons will watch very closely your responses during this crisis and they will learn how to treat a woman or how a woman should act by watching you.
Model quite faith and determination but not doormat. You can still love the 'idea' of who Brian was or love him like you wish he was but do not pine and wither when that is not returned.
Be strong and loving. Detach from Brian and let him have what he is asking for, his freedom. Protect yourself and the kiddos legally and heal yourself.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." -Eleanor Roosevelt. M-42, H-42. M-22yrs, together 27yrs, Sep 5yrs. D-22, S-18 I'm a survivor
