If I read your post correctly Lisa, you said that when B was still at home the name was decided on Kayla Marie but that was not YOUR choice, B decided and you just went along as usual.
You are by all indications going to raise this child along with your four others (whom B named with very little input from you). This is your baby girl, B is just the sperm donor at this point. You name LL what you want and can be proud of. If H gets upset about the name thing it's only because you took control of your future with your new daughter.
Tell you what. Write down your top three or four names and then ask the boys to vote on their favorite. Let them help name her!
They are going to be the male constants in your life, not B. I'm not sure where bliss is coming from but you have been a doormat long enough. Your H is a serial adulterer. Bliss's H is in therapy to work on his issues, B is not. Bliss has one kid, you are going on 5. Take what she says with a grain of salt. You can DB by getting your life in order, working on you and your healing both physically and psychologically. Don't let other people on this board try to compare themselves to you and push you into their mindsets or make you feel guilty about your own.
You still love B yes but you should hate his behavior. You are not his mother, he is a grown ass man and should be responsible to his actions. If you choose to stick in there and be abused like you have been in the past then you fail as a mother. What would you say to your sons or daughter if they were in the same situation you are in right now with B?
Take care of you and the little ones. Take B off the top of your list of things to worry about, he doesn't deserve to be there.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." -Eleanor Roosevelt. M-42, H-42. M-22yrs, together 27yrs, Sep 5yrs. D-22, S-18 I'm a survivor
