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Had a discussion with H last night set off by our DD not getting her homework done. H was feeling like he had yet another responsibility to call and check and make sure I was pushing her to do her homework. We talked it out, let each other know how we feel, I think I did an okay job of stating my feelings. He wants me to say YEAH WE ARE GOING TO DO THIS, and I can only say I will try my best. I don't know why that isn't good enough, I discussed that he is a routine person and I am a fly by the seat of my pants person, so when I say I will try, I mean it, but it is going against my nature. I hope that clarified the issue for him some.

I dont' know. He came home in a bit of a mood because he had a tough day at work, so I suppose this just added to that stress and made him feel like the whole day he is just pushed to keep on top of everything. I let it go and let him simmer down. I will try harder to be more vigilant about her homework and getting it done right after school. See to me that is torture, they just had a full day of school and why would I push them to do more school work, to him it is get it done and be free the rest of the time. I honestly think we both have a point, but in the interest of my marriage I will try and follow his way of thinking.

seems like you have a good day (saturday) and then everything gets cool again, don't want to go too fast you know. I still feel like they test something out and then recoil. Cat's post about benefit of the doubt was great. I need to keep that in mind, there was no A, but just the idea that we should not presume to read their minds, that is very important.

Feeling pretty alone today.