Well,
TJ admitted a year ago, "this is all my fault, this is all my fault" when we were 3 mo into this, and now it has been 15 months.


I believe that bottom is a loss. He has to experience a loss, and the definition of a loss largely depends on what TJ values.
H.

Bomb 1/06
D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature.
Divorce final October 31, 2008.
OW looks like bad history. Over.
Still hopeful. Baby steps.
In R with my X.