He is leaving to be alone to THINK - now what?

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H has agreed to talk to me everyday and asked me how I feel. But now we have not talked about R for almost a week now. I feel like I am exploding for wanting information. Even "I don't want to talk about R for another week." is OK. One of the biggest problems in our R is him saying something which I take a a promise and he never fulfills it and just lets it slip off the radar, leaving me wondering if he actually plans to do it?/forgets?/not want to do it anymore?/what?? usually I wait until i explode and that's not good. I hate to remind him because he feels like I am pushing. Is there a good solution to let him know that i still have expectation of the daily R talk until he tells me otherwise?

Physically we are OK (guess I am doing a great job complimenting in that regard). I have another question. I know he is trying, but to use the "Five Love Language"'s words, he is sometimes speaking my language but not my dialect. I want him to be open (with his feelings, with the little steps he is taking away from OW), but instead I get a report of his daily activities. I do not want him to "report" to me the boss. I want to be the "wife".

OK, since I am venting, may as well go all the way. I feel that i am not in his social circle at all. She is. (ex-coworker, drinking circle while I did not drink before). Is it safe to request that I be included in his social circle at this point? Right now he is at home and we do things. But he is taking the route as not going out with any of his friends at all, but being with me, and just me. What i want is for him to go out, AND TAKE ME WITH HIM TO SHOW THE WORLD I AM THE WIFE!!!! I wonder if he will feel "pushed" if I request that.

Olive - remember the cave from Venus/Mars. It is so tough when h pulls away. Then i try to remember the cave. Easy to say, difficult to do.

Aud31, thanks for the reminder that he is holding ME!!! I needed that, plus that's somehow tells me that's a pretty big step. And I just realize also for me to push for more now may just be a bit too much for h.

This board is good. It clears my mind sometimes. Good to read others' story too just to keep me sane. thanks.