Slowly, Yoyo, Matilda, and Friends, My W and I went to dinner on Sunday, and had a nice evening. We practiced dancing on Sunday evening and this morning.
My W is interested in helping me become a better dancer. She provides me with helpful feedback during our practice time, and I make sure to thank her for it. Feedback from an experienced female dancer is "gold" to me.
Navigating the dance community is so much easier when you have a friend to help you. I probably would have quit long ago, if it weren't for her.
I shared with her that my parents and family are getting together in North Carolina this summer. I'm reluctant to go there with her and spend so much time together, and to have her be with my family. Vacations where my family stays together in a house for a week has not been an enjoyable experience for her. I would not go there by myself; I think it would harm the R. My parents will have to be disappointed.
She keeps talking about needing to get a new job, but takes no steps towards finding one. I try to be patient in knowing that talking about it is building motivation to make a change. I don't want to take on solving her problem for her (my past pattern). I think she'll be so much happier once she makes a change.
I've started reading a book called "The Friendship Factor," by Alan McGinnis. I need to work on cultivating social connection and friendship in my life. My W is my only friend at this time.
My dance class and writing group give me an opportunity to cultivate social connection. It's been years since I've had a friend. I also want to work on my friendship with my W.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
