Oh.. sweet, sweet revenge.. We all dream about it... But, yes.. I have the same motto - always try to act with dignity and respect.. no regrets.. Good advice!
I agree, I have to set the example for my little one. I don't want any regrets. I'm sure my W is going through her own torment, but she has a way of hiding it.
Well, there is this STD word in the navy that sums up most of the bad diseases: Gonah-kahkah-herpa-laids. I don't have the "laids" part, but I am going back in 3 months for another check up.
The rest, gonahkahkahherpa... is what I am waiting on results for.
I'm a wreck....
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~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
Root, first, she was trying to be someone she's not and she got sucked into "his world". It's not her culture, she knew better, guess she let all reason go out the window huh?
She does feel embarrassed for being used by him. I think more than she lets on. But she had me all along, she didn't want to go to therapy in the past, and now this. I hope she knows that her method didn't work. Affairs don't "fix" marital problems!!!! Geezzz!
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
UA, I'm not going to be the "bad guy" here. I already caused enough damage when I told most the people we know she was "seeing" someone else. Even some of her so-workers asked her if it was true that she had a "boyfriend". I'm not going down that road again.
And only time will tell if she truly has ended her addiction with him. She seems to be very concerned about me now, acting like she cares about me. I want to believe her actions......
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
My daughter is doing really good. She gets lots of attention from me, some from my W whenever she's not sleeping or at work. My W made a choice to work nights, and she wont listen to me or let me help her find a secretarial job - always has excuses.
So my W isn't really all that involved in my daughter's or SS's activities. SS has a life of his own, being a teenager and having a license now. He acts like he's an full grown adult, but we try to remind him that he needs to follow our "house rules" - he's still a kid in a man's body.
I'm the one that goes to my baby's school functions at night, while W sleeps. I'm the one that spends my waking hours in the afternoon and on Sundays with my little one while W sleeps. So I am spending tons of time with my little girl, and she is very attached to me - makes me happy. I even help her bathe and wash her clothes and feed her of course, W does very little of that.
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~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
I envy you sol that your able to spend that type of quality time with your D. For circumstances beyond my control, my time is limited but I try to make the best of it.
Sometimes, I secretly wish my stbx would have completely gone off her rocker and left my S7 with me, but I know that's not in his best interest. As is stands now, she's only partially insane, but still a good mother to him.
Your W is going to wake up some day and realize to late what she's missed. Your D will be grown and the W will wonder where the time went.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
I know....and I truly wish we could spend more time as a FAMILY. My W thinks that she needs to work very hard to get by, and she will have that mentality if she lives on her own...work work work. She doesn't know she can work smarter - like in an office, and not be so exhausted at the end of the day. On the outside she comes across as a strong, yet stubborn independent woman. But on the inside, she has shown weakness by giving in to the lures of another man and rejecting completely her marriage and her family. She was out of her mind then. But I too see that she's partially insane, but showing signs of coming back to her senses.
She's missing out on a lot right now. I love children, I want to spend quality time with little ones and give them the things that I never had - like lots of time spent with daddy. I want more kids - W doesn't. Just 2 more - ideally.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
