What if you knew back then that she wanted more variety. I am speaking about my own sit here and wondering how my H might be taking it.
Well it was no secret in our R that I was open to new things. I read several books etc., but mostly learned mechanical stuff on how to get your woman to climax. At least that's the subject that I focused on most. I think if my W had approached me with a list of things that turned her on, or enhanced her ML experience I would definately have been open to it. If it was presented properly that is. The wrong way would be to come at me with an attitude like "here is my list of demands. You've been a lousy lover all these years and it's about time you get it right you big dufus". As opposed "H, you are an awesome lover. I love ML to you and I'm getting hot just thinking about you. I would love you to try blah, blah, blahing me next time. I think that might really get me ready for you so I can dig you even more. You are a sexy man and I know you'll take good care of me". I think that would help get me off my routine.
My W had an O frequently when we ML. I ALWAYS made sure she climaxed first. Then just a couple of weeks ago, she informed me that she could count on two hands the number of times that she felt we had REALLY good sex. So I'm thinking that I've been way too mechanical, and based on the remarks you my female friends are making here, not nearly as ????? as I should be.
Please fill in the ????? for me. (romantic, flirty, slow, aware, handsome, or what?????)
God Bless,
COG
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