Whore/Madonna Syndrome

[Heywyre]

CE - most of the information I found was through the internet. We did have to pay someone in England to be an intermediary because they have some strange rules over there.

If you are searching in the States it is a LOT easier though as most States have access to their records for relatively little or no fees. Also the States have access to a lot of records that Canada and other countries don't because their laws allow for records to be released after 70 years (I believe) whereas Canada's is 90 and England's is 100 - it can get quite complicated

My H's records were particularly difficult because he was adopted and anyone adopted in England prior to 1975 has to go through this whole big ordeal about having them see a psychiatrist, getting papers signed, blah blah blah and even then, they don't just release your file. Then we had to get a lawyer over there to appear for us in court to have the adoption file released. We were thrilled - they guy felt so bad for us, he never charged us a cent. Most aren't that fortunate though

You have to be careful though - there are SO many scammers out there willing to "find your lost relatives" and can soak you for literally thousands and still be nowhere - so be careful