Whore/Madonna Syndrome

[Heywyre]

Wow that's amazing - good on ya!! I alsmost adopted a child in my first marriage. I had gone through two miscarriages and was pregnant a third time and it wasn't going well. H and I decided if that one didn't work out, we would just adopt, but it did and I was blessed with a daughter (who is now - yikes!! - 30 years old - so I guess that's another thing we don't have in common, our ages)

Then I got pregnant with my second one, who is 28. Both pregnancies were very difficult and, as much as I wanted to have at least 4 children, it was seriously advised that I stop while I was still ahead. After all, I had two healthy children and a third could leave them motherless, so I stopped.

Tracing your family would be difficult, to say the least, with the background. I'm into genealogy, so I guess that is part of the reason we sought out my H's side of the family. However, it semi backfired because, I really don't think my H cared much. He was born in England and his life has been here since he was 5, end of story. We did find his biological mother (albeit 6 months too late) and a half brother, who wants nothing to do with him. But that's ok with H too because he figures if someone doesn't want to at least talk to him, then he isn't work talking to.