FWIW, just so you know where we're coming from, oldtimer and I have both been on these boards for years and seen just about everything. OT didn't save her marriage but did save herself and has a wonderful new hubby and baby. I reconciled my marriage and we are doing well. Both of us are pro-marriage, but I think both of us see that your sitch requires serious measures. Don't settle for less than what he should be doing.
He's young, so I'm guessing he's probably not on any chronic medications? I only ask because there have been cases of Parkinson's medications kicking off compulsive gambling in unlikely people.
And speaking of drugs - do you think he's abusing drugs or alcohol? Just asking because the sexual behavior often also involves drug-taking.
