I'm not so sure my H saw Saturday as analyzing. I hope it is okay if I get a little more graphic...I tried to guide H to some new spots, which he did catch on to. Then I tried to get him to "go away and come back." I shifted around to get a little more comfortable. He thought I was pushing him away and he did get a little frustrated. I told him, "It's okay. I like what you were doing." Everything was okay after that. I left him to do what he wanted. So I did verbalize a little. I told him afterwards that I felt bad that I am having so much trouble verbalizing and that I confuse him. That was when I asked him if writing some things on paper would be okay.
What do you think about us sitting down with the list together? Would that be better?
I don't expect H to do only what is on the list. It just gives him some ideas. If he thinks of something else on his own, that would be even better. He is trying to learn some new things and I am trying to teach him. Anything new he does is fine with me--just as not knowing where we were going on our date was fun.
How is giving him a note mind reading? Isn't it just the opposite?
I read LL. I am trying to learn his and speak it to him.
