""Here's something for you to chew on. In one of the articles I was reading about this complex, it stated that the men (as they get older and the problem becomes more prominent) they are usually drawn to women they feel (subconsciously) can "help" them"
I absolutely believe this. I think we subconciously find the people who can help us with our issues, who will make us face them in a way....and who are best equipped to deal with them. That's not to give myself a huge pat on the back or anything...but I have the patience to try different things with my H, I have the patience to try to understand how he thinks...and I have observed his behaviors. I'm also able to empathize with his side of things...I work very hard to see not only my side, but his too (sometimes unsucessfully).
In turn being with him has made me confront some things myself, such as my fear of confrontation. My fear of truly speaking my mind because of what someone might think/do (I'm waaaaaaay past that now.), and my inability to ask for what "I" really need because I was always putting someone else before me. Now, while he didn't really help me confront these things...I did confront them because of him.
