You are on the right track in your thinking. Issues don't just go away when you don't confront them...and I would definitely BUY the book. Sometimes they are handy to have around to refer back to.
I really believe you two will get through this, I just think your hubby is going to need a smack upside the head about his "privacy" and the fact that it promotes mistrust in him. He needs to understand...you don't owe him your trust, BECAUSE he betrayed you. He doesn't just get your trust and his own behavior is stunting your trust in him.
I think he'll get it, it's just going to take you, the book, and perhaps your MC to get it through to him.
