Our therapist said it was a form of sexual addiction because of the type of behavior not necessarily the frequency or compulsivity
But you still don't want to believe it????
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Maybe I am just making excuses for him because I don't want him to be a sex addict.
Bingo.
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supposedly it has stopped but he refuses to prove it
Because he hasn't stopped, obviously.
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he continues to gamble when times are tough
Because he's addicted. And how do you KNOW he's only lost a little money??? Gambling addicts usually hide their losses, and lie about how much they bet.
Read the section in Divorce Remedy on the Last Resort. You need to set some really firm boundaries on what you will allow in your life (and the lives of your children). Your H needs to feel the reality of the consequences of his actions. And you NEED to find out exactly how bad the money situation is - are there credit cards you don't know about? Run a credit report on both of you. Look at all the bills. I think your H is out of control and odds are he's going to run up some big bills, so you should consider legal separation to protect yourself from getting sucked down into worse debt with him.
I know reading all this makes it sound as if I think he's hopeless. Actually, I don't - I learned a long time ago here that some of the least likely WASs can make spectacular turnarounds. But I DON'T think it will happen with your H unless you start standing up for yourself.
This guy carelessly risked exposing you to AIDS and any number of other STDs by having casual sex with complete strangers because he was bored with being a family man!!!!! He didn't make any effort to spice up the sex at home. He's gambling while you're struggling to pay the bills.
Get some legal advice about your options to protect yourself financially.
