IT'S HAPPENING ALL OVER AGAIN!!!!!!!!

[BeingMe]

I am so sorry it has come to this! Your S's are lucky to have a dad like you, who was willing to work things out, and stand for his M, despite the obstacles. They are also lucky to have a family to support them.

Now you must try and let your W go, with as little resentment and anger as possible (more for yourself, than for her). Be civil, polite, courteous, especially in front of the kids. Do not let the children pay the price of your anger, pain, and hurt. It's not their job to make things right. It's their job to be kids, and have parents who protect them (even if one of them doesn't seem to be doing so right now). And, of course they're not going to understand all this grown-up stuff - they're kids, and don't have an understanding of the adult world, so don't expose them too much. Their understanding is pretty much black/white, and very little grey, so try not to burden them with too much info.

Seek legal counselling, so you know your rights, and be fair in your dealings with your W. I know you must be hurting right now, and very angry, and rightfully so, but revenge, or bitterness, will not help you in the long term.

Detach, GAL, move on, and continue being the man you are. Don't let the bad choices and actions of your W change you (perhaps they are the only choices she feels she can make right now). Be proud of yourself for trying to save your M, of doing all that you could, and now allow yourself some time to mourn the loss, but don't wallow too long. There is much adventure out there, to be had.

I am so glad that there are men on this bb like you (the ones that still have honour and a willingness to stand for what's right), who gave me hope when I needed it. So, know that there is always hope.

Take care.