Whore/Madonna Syndrome

[Heywyre]

GRL and Alpha - I totally agree that the trust issue is HUGE and if you don't have that, then what's the point.

GEL - my H was like yours, I never saw any of the bills etc. but they were getting paid, just like they are now, we are not in financial straits, even though he did spend quite a bit of money on OW, but the fact remains is he didn't put us into debt. However, that doesn't make it right, does it?

Of course, the question I get now is "well, you never questioned me before, why now? And he can't seem to understand it has nothing to do with my not trusting that the finances will be taken care of, it has to do with the trust that he just won't tell me - that sets off alarms

We had a HUGE talk (2 exhausting hours) last night when he got home and I still never touched on the visa and/or cell bill - that is coming. Also I noted the taxi receipts he had (which we have to claim for, and I will have access to because I will be putting the claim in for them) What strikes me as weird (red flag) is he said he went to the mall but the address of the receipt is different. Now, I know there might be an explanation (i.e. he wanted the address coming and going to be the same so they wouldn't question it - acceptable) however it coincides with the time frame I couldn't get ahold of him (another red flag) so that is going to have to be addressed and the only way he will be able to talk himself out of that one is to give me access to his cell for yesterday (and the rest of the month) to prove to me he wasn't in contact with her

Time will tell