One more thing... when you do these fun things with the kids, take lots of photos. Get a few good ones enlarged and put them on the fridge or take the best, frame it, and stick it on a shelf.
Also... if you're separated or going through divorce... I took a bunch of old family videos, had them transfered to DVD and gave my husband copies.... I figured this would be the best way to remind him what a great family he had. Although I learned later he didn't even look at them!!! Oh well...
Nextsteps_4us, Trying to make yourself more attractive in general is an excellent idea. Regardless of what your wife does, it will help you feel better about yourself, gain self-confidence and help pull you out of any depression.
Go to the gym, start running, lift weights, get some new clothes, great cologne, etc... Try to keep in mind, even though you look great and women will find you attractive, you are in a vulnerable place, so try not to get involved with anyone beyond friendship (you just don't need to add that complexity to your life at this point).
My prediction is that being attractive, self-confident and happy will probably have a very good chance of making your wife stop and think about what she's doing. Of course, the person you need to do this for is not her, but for youself.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
