Well, for the most part, he is doing all those things, other than the "secrecy" thing and he does seem to be trying to overcome that.

I know it has always been a trigger for me and I also know I have to address it. Whether or not I want to go there tonight is another story. I think I might want to just sit on things for a couple of days as we will both be tired by the time he gets home and I would just like to have a cup of tea, enjoy each other's company and go to bed. I'm already exhausted from today and it's only 6:30

Thanks for the lists GEL. I have copied them and WILL bring them to his attention in the next couple of days - its going to be tough, but I know it IS something I have to do

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)