I agree with ROOT you can not change your W heart, she is in lala land rightnow. The only way for her to get transplanted out of it is for her to see that lala land is not a great place to be in. Planning fun events with your kids is a great way for her to see what she is missing. I have been thinking for a while to bring my 2DD to Disney for a week and not bring my W. I think hearing all about the week and the fun we will have will really make my W think, especially if she thinks back to the memories of our trip there two years ago.
"So how do I do this - should i just not try to be available? Is anyone else in this situation? What have you been successful with? "
Well I think we all have struggled with these questions. For me nothing has seemed to work. The cloud of deception that my W is under is so thick that she couldn't see her hand if she put it in front of her face. Keep trying different things everybody sitch is different and there is not one cure all - I wish there was. Keeping GALing... you are doing great. You are a great man standing up for your M like this. Keep you chin up.
