In a sense, it is about me. I say this because I cannot control this situation, only God can. Yes, this is about me because that is a change in how I do things.
Also, letting go and letting God allows Him to control other factors in one's life.
It is not just external, it is internal and how I think about things.
There is weight that is lifted from us when we let go like this. It allows one to move on while letting God bear all of the burden.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Just wanted to post a big THANK YOU for your suggestion for the note to H. It seems to have had a positive effect. Check out my thread for his behavior yesterday.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
Well, Got through the weekend. I was on boards for a long time yesterday, and I since then I have had a "fight" with myself. I think I won!!!
I want to talk to TJ's family about setting boundries with TJ. I want them to force him to be accountable for his actions.
But then I see it as what I want. For me. Not the natural progression of things.
And I see it as taking the steering wheel away from God again.
So I win. I fought the battle and won.
Just wondering out loud, how many times am I gonna fight that battle with myself? This will most certainly come up again.
What if I just give them some of Charlene Cares newsletters?
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
I have 1 week of no contact under my belt, and it feels good. Everyday has been a relief.
I am going to keep 2 weeks regardless, and hope for 3 from TJ. My goal is 6 weeks. A few things could come up in the mean time.
1. Realtor wants to update T^J, and he might use that as a reason to contact me. Might beat him to the punch. 2. 4 way settlement conference call, in early June.
I can tell realtor to tell TJ that I will agree to whatever TJ thinks is best. So I can sidestep that one. The 4 way may be longer than 6 weeks, but even still, I will be in office with my L and I will be as mute as I can possibly be.
So no news is good news. It really helps me. I feel the healing happening.
I am focusing. I got over it, but I know I will constantly fight the battle of letting FIL know he has alot of power right now. I will be still. Keep after me friends!
I want the no contact for me.
I am doing well. Cheers, Hooly
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
Hi Holly, Have never posted to you before, but have been reading a lot. I too have been thinking of NC. I decided today to go against it because Hs contact has been pleasant, but sometimes I wish we could just cut ties. Sometimes it hurts worse when you get just a little than nothing at all from them.
I wish you luck!!! Stand strong and heal...this is YOUR TIME!!! Unbroken
THis is your journey too. You will put the nc in your tool belt and use it at the appropriate time.
Hooly
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
I am a fixture around here. One of the tent poles.
What a life!
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.