Off the crazy train?

[trytoohard]

Cathching up on my own thread here as it's been several months since my last update...

H and I are still living apart but growing closer ever so slowly. He spends usually one to two nights a week at the house and it is usually very relaxed and enjoyable. Our sex life has improved leaps and bounds and it feels almost like we are teenagers again!

H and I are both seeing the same therapist who is wonderful. Lots of painful stuff we are dealing with in IC. I am still not ready for him to move back home and I don't think he is ready to move back home, there is still so much work to do.

We are having more open, effective communication and more conversation that does not revolve around the A. That being said, I don't feel that he has stopped all contact with her. My gut tells me that they still communicate and not just about work topics.

Things are moving along nicely, no pressure on either side at this point. For the first time in my life I can say "Slow is good".

I do still struggle with thoughts about contacting ow and her H. I get bugged that she "gets off scot-free" in all of this and would like to cause her some pain but my rational mind knows it would not do anything positive for our sitch.