Ok...don't let that freak you, I know it's tough. But there are legit reasons like you mentioned. Yes, it would have been nice...but I often don't think about picking up the phone to call my H when I'm running for appointments.
Deep breath, you'll hear from him.
Also, FWIW...when he does get home tognight talk to him about how hard this day has been for you. Get it out of your system and give him the opportunity to comfort you after all of this.
GEL - I am glad you mentioned that (about talking to him when he gets homes) because I wasn't sure whether or not I should bring it up. I am unsure at this point if he has to work tomorrow or not but if he does, he will be getting home around 8 pm and having to get back up about 11:15 to go to work so its not like we would really have all that much time to talk. If I am really lucky, he won't have to work tomorrow but I won't know that until at least later this afternoon or when he gets home
It is now just after 1:30 and I STILL have not heard from him so I am presuming the doctor's appointment is taking longer than anticipated (which is weird because it is a specialist and we all know how they don't like exactly take their time. However, I will breath deeply and keep my fingers crossed that he calls soon
I guess if he is still in the doctor's office, that is a better place to be than at OW's right? tic toc, tic toc (lol)
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
I know this is just driving you nutz, it would me too. I remember one day sitting at home trying to get ahold of my H on his cell phone and it kept going right into VM. I couldn't help but wondering....who is he talking to if he's not talking to me?!! It's horrible what our minds will do to us.
I am trying to work in the lab with the students but for some reason it just doesn't seem to be working - I know I have to distract myself.
It's almost 2 pm now and him being at the doctor's for 2� hours is HIGHLY unlikely. There is no point even trying his cell, because if I get VM that will just make me freak all the more
Ok - I have to go do something before I go insane
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
H just called (about 2:20 - some 15 minutes ago) and said he has just got out of the doctor's office. This is quite possible because I know the doctor he was going to see (a psychiatrist) and he can be VERY longwinded with his questioning
However, H sounded like he was out of breath (I don't even want to go there) but I brushed it off to him just getting out of the doc's office and walking. However he said it was "stuffy" in there and he was going for a "little walk" - which makes me wonder because its not a very nice part of town and he literally HATES it around there. The thought of her being so close by freaks me out too. Also he said, I will call you when I land (which won't be until 6 hours from now (4 hours before he has to go to the airport)
So here's the question .... Would it be paranoid and out of line for me to call him when I get off work (about an hour from now) and see how he's doing or would that seem too obvious that I was checking up on him?
He should be on his way to the airport by then (I would think) but in the meantime he's would still have another 3 hours to kill
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
No it's not out of line to call him, not at all...I probably would in the same situation...for my own piece of mind AND to give him the opportunity to comfort me. THAT would be a good time to talk to him since he'll be coming home later and might have to work in the next day as you said.
I thought calling him would be a good idea, so I did and, what do I get? His VM - and now I have to go for an appt at 4 so no time to see if he gets back to me or not
Gawd !!! I hate this
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Oh man! That's not a comforting thing to have happen now is it? One thing you know though is that if he's calling from his cell phone, or receiving a call from his cell phone....you will eventually see the call log....right? It's also possible he's in a spot in the city where it's hard to get phone access...it just so happens there are spots within the building I work where I do not get phone reception.
Thanks for the justification but I tried several times and still VM both before and after my appointment with the C - I know he is on the flight now but for 3 hours, who knows where he was
He has his cell with him all the time and, no I don't have access to his log - he cleans it off his phone every night (which makes me wonder all the more) but its something he's done for a while now, since he discovered that is how I found out about the OW
I know she has changed her phone number but its pretty easy to look up in the local paper under "personals"
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
