Skittles, I have heard of men with a sense of entitlement, but yours takes the cake. It's utter BS that he should be able to sink you and your kids into a hole you won't be able to get out of. My goodness I am sorry to see you here, but I am telling you that you will get alot of good advice. You seem to me to be a good person who only wants to live a decent life, and he is the person who wants to bleed you dry and live as though he hasn't a care in the world.
And for him to tell you that you don't support him in anything, well you support him in just how he lives.
How long has he been like this? How old are your kids? Do you think he is going throught a mid life crisis?
I would hide the credit card somewhere that he wouldn't find it, like under a bedside table or a bookshelf. Don't pay his traffic tickets, let them get him on a warrant, it will be good for him. Always put the kids and the mortgage first. Maybe if you have an adjustable rate mortgage that keeps going up, look into refinancing at a lower fixed rate, and maybe use some equity to pay off debts, if you can. But do hide the credit card, and make sure he has no access to any of your money. This may sound harsh, but I think your situation warrants it. If he is going through a midlife crisis, he will be feeling like he is entitled to do anything he dang well wants to do. L
