Thank you for response. It's good to hear from someone else that has marriage problems..I've been waiting for someone on this board to respond to me. This past weekend I waited an hour after I got up and decided that since he wasn't going to say good morning to me I would be the big person and say good morning to him..he responded good morning. When he came home later that afternoon from taking my son to pick up his friends he saw me mowing the backyard and came out on the deck and stood there screaming at me to shut the lawnmower off. I told him he had no right to scream at me..his reply was that my son was suppose to be mowing the lawn..I told him irregardless you don't need to scream at me. He told me he had every right to because of the way I was treating him. He told me that am cold that I don't share with him, I don't make the children keep up with their daily chores. I asked him what was wrong with him asking the kids to do their chores also? He is their father. I asked him about my credit card that he used and didn't tell me about the charges...he told me we were married and that he should be able to use my card...I told him it was my card in my name and I make the payments...he told me I was selfish and that it was no big deal if he used my card - were married. He told me that all of our problems were because I chose to make our marriage like this. That I should share more be more loving toward him. What in the world would make someone attracted to a man that can'teven acknowledge his wife's feelings and concerns? I sat at the dining room table last month crying because the house payment was going up and I didn't know what I was going to do. He asked me why I was crying and I told him. He said maybe he might have to get a night job. A whole month has gone by and no job. Am going crazy here. He told me I need to realize that I don't support him in anything he does, that I don't care about him or the love him otherwise he wouldn't be this way. I told him about him spoiling our vacations, holidays, our grandson's lst birthday, my wages getting garnished because his failure to pay bills. No response from him. No sorry. Nada. His father molestated my daughter from my first marriage and when the molestation was revealed to me he told me she was liar that that never happened...he only confronted his father once and the man did not deny it...When I took my boys to counseling about what had happened he told me in the waiting room that if I had been a better mother to my daughter she wouldn't have been so vulnerable and this would not have happened. One year later his father dies...he tells my daughter that her lie killed his father. I told him I was not going to his father's funeral and if he wanted to go I would respect his decision. I went out of town and he came with me and didn't go. But now he tells me that I told him not to go. Everything is just a frick'n mess. Sorry to be venting but it helps somewhat. Am just so worried for my kids and my own sanity. Thank you for your thoughts. Peace Skittles
