Not AGAIN?!

[BeingMe]

Your H is an abuser, and IMHO, it's the one time I tell someone to get out of the M. He has to heal himself before he is of any use to anyone, including a W, and children. He is, figuratively speaking, showing you his middle finger, and you are enabling him. The OW suits him because she parties with him, so he will continue running back to her, or a version of her, until he has overcome his addiction problems. He will also blame you for all his woes, because he is in denial about his own faults.

I think, in your case, your friends and family are right ... run, and don't look back until he is healed and is a whole man. You are not doing your kids any favours by sticking it out. All you are teaching them is that a woman should just shut up and tolerate the abuse.

Sorry, if I sound harsh, but no amount of love and patience, stops an abuser and addict. Take care.