Valentines day massacre

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Congratulations OL, on the bartender thing. Maybe a new career? A hard one though. Maybe just for parties or catered events for some extra cash. Maybe to impress you friends. I've been drinking Manhattens lately. I like burbon and scotch, haven't really had mixed drinks before. Kind of fun to try them.

I get a little satisfaction out of your W not passing (I'm allowed to be petty and mean.). I think it's funny (in a sad way, or sad in a funny way) that grandpa is bouncing checks. This MLC stuff is whacky. What could she see in him? (maybe, what did you see in her, if her judgement is so off?).

Hey, don't sweat the D papers. My wife was in contact with L and all, but didn't follow through. Many on these boards have been told the papers are coming and they never do. If nothing else, filling out those papers are hard work, and she probably doesn't have it in her.

If I can give you my last DB counselor phone session, would you want to use it? I'll see if it's transferable.

Good luck, OL, with the job search, place to live, the whole thing.

I'm in a mood today, so I won't be as positive as I usually am (Am I usually positive?). My first session with a counselor, when my W was still with the OM in another state, he asked me why I wanted her back. Good question. I think asking yourself that questions, seeing that she isn't that great, that you deserve better, helps you to detach and get your feet under you again. Then, if you do want her back, you are working from a more equal state (she doesn't have all the power)and you are stronger. I think this makes you more attractive to her and others too. And, seriously, why would you want her back?

I hope you can get on line occasionally. I'll miss you. You've already won, you've already shown how strong you are, you've survivied. Now you just have to see it through to whatever end comes.

You're not out of luck. You're finding new luck. I think it comes when you're not worried about finding it.

You are strong.