Snodderly:

Thank you for your post. H is supposed to be responsible for my legal fees .. that's another reason I thought he would want to settle this as amicably (and inexpensively) as possible.

My lawyer's office called this afternoon about filing supoenaes for witnesses at the divorce. After months and months of aimless rambling, it looks like this sitch has taken a definite turn now. It's not the road I wanted, but when every boundary is crossed, and every opportunity for reconciliation is shut down, there's not much hope left.

As hard as it is to accept the reality of divorce, at least I'm out of limbo. This crazy roller coaster ride, and the uncertainty of my life after so long a time, was taking a real toll on my mental, physical and emotional health.

H said in a phone call in February that we should go ahead with this divorce and start over again in the future. I don't know about that right now. I do wonder, however, how H will feel when he realizes that this D is on a fast-track now and there are no escape routes left.

Thanks again
Val