IT'S HAPPENING ALL OVER AGAIN!!!!!!!!

[BeingMe]

If you are going to tell them anything, perhaps you can tell them that mom and dad are not getting along, and you're going to have a time out ... don't have to mention D. Don't load too much onto their little shoulders, more than they can even understand. Be sure to tell them that they are not to blame, and that they are very much loved, and that they will always be safe and happy because they are the most important people to you. Dr. Phil says that sometimes kids think that things are their fault even when it's obvious to us that it's not ... not obvious to them, though.

As resentful of your W as you may be (and justifiably so), try to keep interactions between the two of you as civil as possible. Detach, detach, detach. Try treating her like you would an acquaintance ... politely. For the sake of the kids. Believe me, they know more than you think they do, so try not to be sad around them, or say anything about their M. Children pick up on emotional stuff, so they must be reassured that they will be okay, no matter what.

I just feel so bad for your S8 - it's an age where they still are very much emotionally attached to their parents, and boys are particularly attached to their mothers, usually. Is he close to his grandma, where he can get some good motherly attention, and fussing over?

Don't worry over past mistakes ... it's done. Learn from it, and move on.

I sure hope things work out for you.