MC--these are positives. For all the fog, she's still hesitant to lose your presence in her life. Keep up the good work!
Yes. She has her 'cake' and can 'eat it' too.
Doesn't get much better than that.
If it were my situation, I would
1) Be sure you are right.
2) If you are SURE you are right. Ask her about it.
3) If she confirms, tell her that you will no longer tolerate her ADULTERY while she claims to be open to your relationship. She can't 'have her cake and eat it' too.
Be a man. Cut her off from any time with you no MATTER HOW MUCH SHE COMPLAINS. She manipulates you with her BS. She's good at it too. Stop playing the game.
She is an adultress. plain and simple. Treat her like one.