Time for the weekly post to help meal deal with situation. Was a work weekend, so no time for dates. Went out as a family to Mass and Mexican Sat night. The kids got videos to watch--my wife and I worked on details for summer family Disney trip (still planning a family trip-that's good).
At end of night went to bed and as other side of bed seemed to be bouncing a lot, I reached over to touch my wife. It was not well received. "What are you doing?" "I was trying to help you." "you know I don't want to be touched now! I've told you that." I just rolled over and went into "sulk mode". Probably not the right thing to do, but definitely learned that 180 wouldn't work.
Reading DR now. Just passed section last night where it says to assess on 1-10 scale where marriage was when started and where it is now. Would say it was a 2 then--wasn't a 1 because we weren't fighting all the time, but little connection at all. I would rate it up to a 4 now. The friendship is better, but still no physical contact. I was standing right by bedroom door when my wife went to bed last night. She just walked straight by me--no offer of even a hug.
Planning to keep working on it, though. I think I need to move to more of a LRT approach. As always advice would be appreciated!
