It seems like there are 2 schools of thought on the boards. Some like you say - detachment almost borders avoidance. And that I should just have her move out.
Others say do everything you can to keep your wife close to you, while detaching from feeling emotionally hurt about what she is "doing" to you. My DB Counselor has told me that as long as she is at home with me (even though she is full steam ahead with the OM), I have a chance for her to see the changes in me.
