I was feeling so lonely and bored yesterday I wanted to call him or just go over. When I thought about it longer I realised I didn't want to go over 'cos I missed him or wanted to see him, but just because I was lonely. I didn't go over or call. Today was his birthday and all year he has complained that I didn't call last year, (we'd been living apart for almost 2 years). Today I TM early, telephoned a little later, went over to the house and left cards from the kids and me as well as his present and a cake. He called when he got in from work to say thank you and that it was very thoughtful. I can betcha that within the next two weeks he will complain that I didn't make any effort to see him. The thing is I didn't want to do any of the above. I did it partly as I felt sorry for him, knowing that if I didn't do anything he wouldn't get anything from anyone, and partly because I didnt want the earache and condemnation if I didn't. What a b1tch I must be.