I like your attitude, and that you're working on trying to reduce a controlling, jealous nature. I have to admit, I used to be much more controlling and jealous too, and having finally detached and let go of that I feel soooo much better. It's like letting go of a huge weight that one has dragged around forever. You end up liking (and loving!) yourself so much more.
Hopefully you can continue detaching and letting to go. If your wife is in the early stages of MLC this may be a long ride and you'll need the detachment, but overall it will be a very healthy positive thing for you. Sometimes it really is painful experiences that bring the most growth.
It's hard to know what your wife is doing. If she's testing or what, but I think continuing to detach and GAL is good. And the less you consider what she's trying to do, the better for you. Hummm.... kickboxing coah.... that doesn't sound like a prize to me.
One more thing.... you sound like a great dad. I have a lot of admiration for men who want to stay and raise their children in spite of a spouse's difficult behavior. It takes a lot of strength to do that. Women may come and go in your life, but your daughter will be your child forever.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
