But I'm an equal opportunity butt chewer (as well as a butt-chewing RECEIVER I might add! )today so I'm cool with it if your wife reads this and it pisses her off....
Go home.
And throw all of her crap in the spare room.
Don't allow her the luxury of skirting around the hard stuff, like the kids.
If she's wearing any shade of rose-colored glasses regarding how a separation/divorce is going to play out, it's time to take 'em off.
Don't be all boisterous about it.
Just put her stuff in that other room.
Tell her it is time everybody stopped lying and you think it's time to talk to the kids.
Then bring the kids to the couch and let their mom tell them what is so bad about their family that she is willing to leave it.
All her justified feelings aside, it'll all sound like bullsh*t when she's looking into the face of a child.