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ACJ,

Did you get the shoes too?

No, they did'nt have her size, and I don't think she would like them anyway. But what the heck do I know?

CJ,

Sex is also rather boring for me. We kiss, he plays with my boobs, then goes for the O.

Yep, that's me alright. Are you sure you're not my W? And so what your trying to say is that kissing, playing with boobs, then going for the O is not the right plan. That's all I know. That's all that 99.9% of men know.

He doesn't understand that how you get there is more important. I would love it if he made me beg for it sometimes.

Trying to get my W to "beg for it" is like waiting for a friggin iceberg to melt, or trying to train a giraffe to fetch the paper.

My H is very romantically challenged.

Me too! I don't know what the heck I'm doing. It's so frustrating, I've just given up.

Just knowing that he is going to surprise me turns me on. Have your ever surprised your W this way?

Actually a few months ago I surprised her with a limo, dinner and a bunch of friends for her BDay. She was definately surprised, but it did'nt "turn her on" at all. If anything, she expressed a little discomfort because she was worried that I would "expect something" for my effort. She's a sexual dust bowl right now.

Jacqm

and to reiterate what cj says, and like what i said earlier, do you/can you do the gentle yet teasing little touches throughout the day; intimate yet undemanding gestures that show you see her as a desireable woman?

Yes, I'm pretty regular with that. It comes natural, but it rarely gets returned, and that gets a little frustrating too.

you are a lucky man, here you are getting a crash course about what woman like from women, who should know best.

Oh you got that right, and I do appreciate it VERY much. I'm listening, and learning stuff I should have learned a long time ago.

surely something will fit your W's desires.

Yep, probably one of those male swimsuit models would fit her desires.

have you ever asked her what makes her feel special?

She tells me that if I had treated her the way I treat her now back in our early M, she would have just melted. But for some reason she's just not open to it now, does'nt have the feelings for it, somehow can't accept it. But in honor of you, I will ask again.