Cat, I understand what you're saying, and I'm totally willing to do these things. I don't expect my elephant to come home and curl himself up in my lap (to use a Dr. Laura metaphor).
I do believe, however, that in some ways my natural tendency to give him the benefit of the doubt, etc. has enabled his lying behavior. I don't want to slip back into that place. I'm okay with moving forward with no more moaning over the A's or the past in general.
The fact remains that so much of this has resulted from H's poor choices...how do I encourage him to make better choices and hold his feet to the fire when he makes bad ones? Any ideas on walking that fine line?
